All I can say now, is obviously IHMO. My Interviewer. Humble. Opinion. (In my humble opinion). You are free to believe what you want.
There are people who are too polite. I intend to always be polite for too quiet to avoid distrubare. If something heavy, that should say it.
must be said, or else happens. What happens is that after firing. If it were possible to anticipate the flood of anger, venting like a pressure cooker sometimes, we feel better. This, however, requires only one thing. A very intimate to talk to.
can be the friend, may be / the boyfriend / a. Sometimes it may just be ... themselves, according to the methods of thought and self-finding (English, "find themselves"). The point is that sometimes talk to yourself can lead to cry on. That is not the goal we should achieve.
I say this because I've been there. I spent my life to cry him. "I can not handle it " was one of the excuses I used that as a child because I did not know how to study. Nobody taught me, even though they all understood how it was done. I understood only the fifth above, after I recovered the debt of Business Administration with someone who has followed me.
Actually, I believe I was overprotected by my parents, so you do not know how to handle life alone and independently. It is also why I do not want is out there beyond the 11 and a half (currently up to midnight, Cinderella type).
Or, I cried because I wished upon anyone, but I could not get it, in any way. Now, I realized that I was doing only illusions, and that I should just take as fact that I could never get it.
do not think I had someone who seriously listened to my problems. Maybe because I did not want, perhaps in part because there was no minimum. More likely I did not want. But it is wrong, they did not want until you learn to not feeling sorry for himself. One thing is cry on, the other is to think with clarity by trying to analyze the problem to find a solution, and sometimes accept defeat.
Two or three years ago, I read a book that opened my mind and made me discover a part of me. It 's a book about couples, things that in theory does not concern me, because I have never been boyfriend: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus . However, this book is that lessons can be drawn outside the couple. Especially for men, learn to listen rather than hear.
What does it mean to listen? It means trying to understand what did the other person. Not limited to the physical factor of perceiving the sound, but look for the meaning of what the other says, and try to be empathetic. It means that once you heard what the other has to say, do not give advice if it is not required, but sometimes only demonstrate an understanding of the sadness or anger of others, so that the person understands that you simply bored who has not spoken to wind, on the wall. What is not alone.
Unfortunately this does not apply only to the couple. There is also talk of the normal relationships between subjects. Many times, they talk, and if the other does not seem to understand what we say, scream even louder, it does not resolve much. Or do we refuse to listen to what the other has to say because for us it is no doubt that we are right . Both of these behaviors are arrogant, and outrageous. To create a healthy dialogue, we must come meet and understand one another, remembering that the speaker has no stronger reason, and repeat the things that did not forcefully best effect. On the other hand, it must be corrected even in expounding their grievances and know how to explain so that others are more willing to listen.
Now we come to guilt. There is nothing wrong with talking to others about their problems, whether people are suitable for your help message. Each of us needs to feel important in its own way, and give importance is critical to not make him feel bad.
Good. That said, you'll see how I write that I found with this book you need to help others, to defend them to feel fulfilled. This is why I often felt unimportant to other people. Among other things it does not feel important is the motivation for which I speak little (among other things frightened by the idea of say shit and be ridiculed). It 's my way to be helpful, because I've always seen my life as a non-profit, seeing myself as worthless. I want to give people the 'affection they deserve, do they feel like me alone in their personal battles. Maybe I'm wrong school.
I'm going to bed, it's late.
There are people who are too polite. I intend to always be polite for too quiet to avoid distrubare. If something heavy, that should say it.
must be said, or else happens. What happens is that after firing. If it were possible to anticipate the flood of anger, venting like a pressure cooker sometimes, we feel better. This, however, requires only one thing. A very intimate to talk to.
can be the friend, may be / the boyfriend / a. Sometimes it may just be ... themselves, according to the methods of thought and self-finding (English, "find themselves"). The point is that sometimes talk to yourself can lead to cry on. That is not the goal we should achieve.
I say this because I've been there. I spent my life to cry him. "I can not handle it " was one of the excuses I used that as a child because I did not know how to study. Nobody taught me, even though they all understood how it was done. I understood only the fifth above, after I recovered the debt of Business Administration with someone who has followed me.
Actually, I believe I was overprotected by my parents, so you do not know how to handle life alone and independently. It is also why I do not want is out there beyond the 11 and a half (currently up to midnight, Cinderella type).
Or, I cried because I wished upon anyone, but I could not get it, in any way. Now, I realized that I was doing only illusions, and that I should just take as fact that I could never get it.
do not think I had someone who seriously listened to my problems. Maybe because I did not want, perhaps in part because there was no minimum. More likely I did not want. But it is wrong, they did not want until you learn to not feeling sorry for himself. One thing is cry on, the other is to think with clarity by trying to analyze the problem to find a solution, and sometimes accept defeat.
Two or three years ago, I read a book that opened my mind and made me discover a part of me. It 's a book about couples, things that in theory does not concern me, because I have never been boyfriend: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus . However, this book is that lessons can be drawn outside the couple. Especially for men, learn to listen rather than hear.
What does it mean to listen? It means trying to understand what did the other person. Not limited to the physical factor of perceiving the sound, but look for the meaning of what the other says, and try to be empathetic. It means that once you heard what the other has to say, do not give advice if it is not required, but sometimes only demonstrate an understanding of the sadness or anger of others, so that the person understands that you simply bored who has not spoken to wind, on the wall. What is not alone.
Unfortunately this does not apply only to the couple. There is also talk of the normal relationships between subjects. Many times, they talk, and if the other does not seem to understand what we say, scream even louder, it does not resolve much. Or do we refuse to listen to what the other has to say because for us it is no doubt that we are right . Both of these behaviors are arrogant, and outrageous. To create a healthy dialogue, we must come meet and understand one another, remembering that the speaker has no stronger reason, and repeat the things that did not forcefully best effect. On the other hand, it must be corrected even in expounding their grievances and know how to explain so that others are more willing to listen.
Now we come to guilt. There is nothing wrong with talking to others about their problems, whether people are suitable for your help message. Each of us needs to feel important in its own way, and give importance is critical to not make him feel bad.
Good. That said, you'll see how I write that I found with this book you need to help others, to defend them to feel fulfilled. This is why I often felt unimportant to other people. Among other things it does not feel important is the motivation for which I speak little (among other things frightened by the idea of say shit and be ridiculed). It 's my way to be helpful, because I've always seen my life as a non-profit, seeing myself as worthless. I want to give people the 'affection they deserve, do they feel like me alone in their personal battles. Maybe I'm wrong school.
I'm going to bed, it's late.
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